Deuteronomy 27:16
“‘Cursed is he who dishonors his father or mother.’ And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’”
The last two entries were about mothers and fathers and their role in a child’s life. The mother has a huge role in building security and a sense of self. The father gives guidance and acceptance into the world of men (if a son) or how to be (if a daughter). Today we will discuss how a child is to honor parents.
Respect is an important trait. Children are to have that for their parents. It doesn’t come easy. Since the 1950’s teenagers have been rebelling and it’s become an accepted stage.
Psychology describes how a young person must individuate. This is the natural choosing one’s path irregardless if it includes the parents. This isn’t rebellion. It’s natural. It’s like a bird leaving the nest.
Some parents are controlling and this process can be messy. The child must forcefully separate. Many disrespectful things may be said at those times. It’s not right, however, it’s understandable (Ephesians 6:4).
A wise parent understands that all people are different. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” The hebrew text says, “according to his way”. A good parent raises the child in the instruction of The Lord with an understanding of the child’s personality.
The parent should always we assessing and re-evaluating and communicating. The parent and child may have gone through a difficult time. They should talk about it. Apologies are often in order, along with some talk about future events.
In all of this, the child is to be respectful. It doesn’t matter what type of parent. They may be understanding or harsh. Respect must be given.
Lord, help us parents and give the young people the strength to remain respectful.