Ephesians 5:31
“FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.”
“The two shall become one.” We have all been to weddings and this phrase usually uttered. It’s a union that God invented. He created the great attraction between us. When young people become teens part of their biology wakes up and there is that universal attraction. They act differently and they dress differently. All for the purpose of catching the eye of another.
It says in Genesis that Adam didn’t have a suitable helpmate, so God created Eve. He did a great job. I’ve been married for over thirty years and I’m still attracted to my wife and love her company. We are one. There is the physical and relational attraction.
There is also the miraculous union that God built in. There is a blessing on it. Just like there are physical laws in the universe, so there are spiritual ones. This is a blessed union.
The devil hates God and seeks to corrupt all that God values. That’s why sex is such a big deal with the world. They are corrupting what God has created. They mock the constrains He put on marriage with the 40 Year Old Virgin.
What they don’t know is that sex outside of marriage damages the relationship. Instead of blessing the union a value is lost. Eating a meal before it’s fully cooked lessens the experience and can make one sick.
God instills some values in us. We also learn His values from the bible. Premarital sex can instill a guilt which is damaging to intimacy. We feel distant from God which is to be our primary allegiance. Just like Adam and Eve hid from God in the garden, so we have that response. When we are off balance with God we are off balance with others.
When we reserve sex for marriage it’s in it’s proper context and it brings great satisfaction. The experience instills a high that brings the couple closer. Those that exercise and run know the chemical infusion that is gained in that time. It’s called a runner’s high. The body releases chemicals into the system to propel the person forward. It’s feels like a high. Sex does the same thing. A couple may have been at odds, but sex can instill a type of high and smooth out annoyance or whatever the issue was.
God built that pleasure within the experience. Married couples should have sex often. It’s to be a blessing and to keep the couple close.
God also created sex to bring children into the family. They are also a blessing. A busyness enters the family that is challenging. It takes the focus off ourselves which is a good thing. We invest into our kids to help them feel loved and accomplished. The family becomes a team. It becomes one.
This oneness is symbolic of our relationship with Christ. Our relationship with God is to be the primary one. We obey Him above all. He blesses the rest when we do this. David said, “My cup overflows”, (Psalm 23). God fills us with joy and peace and blesses our lives as we love and follow Him. He also fills us with love that blesses our marriage and family.
God, You are amazing. Thank You for loving us and adopting us. Thank You for marriage and all it entails. You have blessed us greatly.